You are enough.


You are enough.

Right now, in this moment you are worthy of love, kindness and acceptance. You don't have to change to be any of those things. You don't have to lose weight to deserve any of those things. You are uniquely and wonderfully made and that means that in all of your wonderful quirks you are still loved and worthy.

The kicker though? Knowing and believing this starts within. If your worthiness or value is contingent on others then it can be just as easily given as it can be taken away. Your self-worth needs to start with you and then others will follow. We set the tone for how others treat us, and we accept the love we think we deserve. So start believing you are worth more and then others will, too.

You see I didn't always love my body. In fact, for most of my life I felt the complete opposite. I felt frustrated and at war with a body that I wished looked different. I told myself that if I could just lose the weight then I would feel better about myself, I would finally be loved and accepted…worthy.

I told myself this lie for years, diet after diet, program after program, pound after pound. I never really got to my goal weight because the reality was, it was never enough. I always thought it would be but it never was.

There was always someone thinner who seemed happier, more successful, more loved. So I just kept trying.

It’s easier to believe this lie that we are told. It’s easier to hold out hope and believe that all we need to change our lives and fix ourselves is weight loss. It’s easier to believe that because at least that feels like a tangible answer when it comes to self-love. It’s tangible that if we would just follow these 10 steps we could finally be happy and at peace with ourselves.

But I am here to tell you there is no need to wait. That the diet and weight loss won’t be the magic fix and it’s time to start digging in and figuring out why you want and need that approval in the first place. You are worth the work it takes to finally be at peace with yourself. You are worth the energy to figure out how you want to show up in this world and the mark you want to leave on it.

I love this poem by Cleo Wade:

"hiding and seeking"

when I let go

of who

I thought I had to be

I could

finally

and powerfully

become who

I really am

oh,

to find out

I had been hiding

and did not know that